Some of you might be asking why? Saying to yourself it’s the way I keep up with my friends. How would I know what’s going on in their lives? My response is simple, Facebook is impersonal. It’s information at a distance. It’s like standing and peering through a telescope at a scenic view. You can see it better but not truly experience it because you are too far away.
Friendship, true friendship is about connection. Connection through a phone call, a letter, a visit. What started out essentially as a site for college students to connect so they could date, has become a public brag book or a place to beg for sympathy. I’ve been guilty of both.
Our society pits us against each other. All you have to do is spend a little time watching television. Between commercials which tell us we can out do our neighbors with the right car, better paint (yes, paint), the better body, faster car etc. and Facebook plastered with all our “friends” successes most of us come away feeling inadequate. We’ve been put on a never ending treadmill chasing meaningless things. Facebook gives power to comparison. As we all know photos can be manipulated and they do not tell the entire story. A picture is no longer worth a 1,000 words anymore. It’s only worth a I’m better than you or feel sorry for me.
Facebook gave me the ability to sit on the sidelines of life. I didn’t have to actually connect with my friends and they could feel they were being supportive by a quick comment. No need to actually pick up the phone. How does a person actually have 800 friends? I’ve have made more progress with my depression since I’ve removed Facebook from my life.
I haven’t exited social media completely. I blog. I have a Twitter and Instagram account. I just have chosen to no longer have a Facebook account.
I’m with Dede; you have excellent insights on Facebook – where it seems people take shots or talk past each other. I am hoping your blogging experience invites actual conversation. Here was my rather long-winded take on this: https://moreenigma.wordpress.com/2015/09/30/posture-of-a-new-age/
Thanks, Rusty
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You make some very valid points. While I am guilty of being on Facebook, I do so mainly as it is useful when organising events and seeing some amusing memes. Otherwise I agree. It is full of narcissism and attention seeking. Not to say that people do not share enlightening points every now and then, but overall this does not happen often.
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Good points
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Im with you 100% I am much better for leaving facebook behind. I now enjoy bumping into someone I havent seen in a while and catching up for five min or so maybe exchange numbers and go from there. It’s all just way too much information and once you see it there is no unseeing if you know what I mean? I also found myself starting to dislike ‘friends’ or acquaintances that I thought I liked. Also not natural in my opinion to see so deeply into everyone’s lives on such a constant basis. I’m not nosey enough I don’t think to enjoy facebook hahaa! I’m very glad to have read your post and very glad to know I’m not the only one to step away from that social media site and survive. I wish more people would try it! They don’t know what they are missing!
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