What part of your routine do you always try to skip if you can?
Hmm, good question. I’d like to say my alarm but work prevents that during the week. And my cats prevent me sleeping in on the weekend.
I pay someone to do yard work but if I didn’t I would skip it.
I live by routine. I feel out of sorts if I don’t have a schedule, but after much thought it would be taking out the garbage and recycle to the curb. Since I live alone, that’s an easy one to skip. I only generate enough trash and recycle for once a month.
Invent a holiday! Explain how and why everyone should celebrate.
I vote for Lost in a Book Holiday. Why? It is a wonderful way to explore other lives, other places, other people,. You can learn how to do new things or better skills you already have. It’s a way to spend time with friends and family with little prep work.
Here is how you celebrate:
Every family member or friend picks a book or books
Gather snacks and beverages
Turn off all phones, TVs, computers and gaming devices
Create comfy spaces to read
Decide on designated break times and rotating schedules to read to non-readers.
Read, read, read
Share about your book with your family and friends.
Any date works, a hot summer day, a cold winter day, a rainy day or just a I don’t know what to do day.
What’s something you believe everyone should know.
Time
If you had $1440 deposited into a bank account every single day but you could not roll it over to the next day what would you do?
Would you Share it? Spend it? I’m positive you wouldn’t just leave it unused. Because to not use it, would be to waste it.
We get 1440 minutes every day, 10,080 minutes every week, 43,830 a month and 525,600 minutes in every standard year. It is not refundable. Unlike a purchase which can be returned and get your money refunded, once time is spent you never get it back.
When you’re younger this seems so unimportant because there is so much time going forward available. You’ll get to it one day. Then one day you wake up and there are more minutes behind you than in front of you. And you realize you wasted so much time.
So I wish everyone knew not to waste time. This doesn’t mean being busy every available moment. It means to cherish every minute whether you are busy or just soaking up the sun or spending time with loved ones.
I get to see this up close. As a caregiver for three young children over the past 9 years, their joy explodes daily.
Making our own soda
They don’t judge. They just enjoy. Every new discovery is treated as though it’s the first time anyone has ever discovered it. Seeing a hummingbird brings jumps of joy and awe.
Seeing new art forms brings inspiration. Watching fun skills like a master chocolatier brings a desire to be one.
I learned to make up and tell stories at the prompting of the kids. Tell us a story Mimi. I had to see the world through their eyes and reignite my own imagination.
As adults we just forget to play, to be open to new things and see the world with a sense of awe. Our focus is on work, responsibilities, money, bills and acquiring stuff etc. Make time to stop. Stop and be quiet. Listen to the sounds around you. Look at the miracles taking place right before your eyes. That is being a child at heart.
2. Neil Armstrong landing and walking on the moon. Watched from our apt in Minnesota and looking up on the balcony.
3 Vietnam war and wearing POW bracelets. Serious business in middle school.
4. The exit from Vietnam
5. Watergate Scandal
6. Abortion made legal
7. Elvis Presley dies- I was fortunate enough to see him in early 1974 in Las Vegas.
8. First test tube baby born
9. Jonestown Massacre
10. Three Mile Island
11. Mount St Helen’s eruption
12. John Lennon’s murder and Reagan shot
13. Black Monday October 1987- Our first home lost about 30% of its value.
14. Desert Storm- delayed our move
15. Berlin Wall torn down (I had gone through Checkpoint Charlie in 1978). Poland and Lech Wałęsa
16. Oklahoma City Bombing-My grandma called because her house shook
17.Princess Diana dies in a car crash and her funeral. My daughters are about the same age as William and Harry. I sobbed the entire way through.
18. Columbine shootings- called my friend who had middle school students in that school district.
19. 9/11- My husband was a captain for American Airlines walking out the door when I yelled at him to come back. And our friend was sitting on the tarmac waiting to take off at Newark. Obviously neither of them flew that day.
20. Tsunami in Asia- terrifying and so sad.
21. Plane in Hudson- thinking all experienced pilots would have done the same thing
22. Sandy Hook massacre- there are no words to express the sorrow and anger
23. William and Catherine Royal Wedding- gave hope for joy
24. Osama bin Laden killed- hoped the nightmare would end but it didn’t.
25. Missing Malaysia flight-so mysterious
26.ALS Ice Bucket Challenge- hoping for an end to this horrible disease.
27. Malala Yousafzai shot in the face- again girls/women targeted just for being a female.
28. Robin Williams’s suicide- as someone who has fought depression for a very long time this one hit close to home.
29. Legalized same gender marriage
30. Queen Elizabeth surpasses Queen Victoria as longest reigning monarch
31. Brexit referendum
32. Donald Trump becomes president ugh
33. Women’s march and the #metoo movement
34. Esptein scandal -still waiting on the list
I am sure I have forgotten many but after looking over a list these are the ones I remember.
I am actually most proud of raising incredible, smart, kind, loving daughters. They are so independent and confident, two things I’ve never been.
I am also very proud of surviving divorce. After 30 years of marriage I was given $9000 in cash, part of the retirement accounts, my debts and my lawyer fees. I didn’t have a job. My world had collapsed and I collapsed along with it. It was necessary to use a retirement account to support me. I spent 3 years in a deep depression. I was out of work for 4.5 years.
I seriously didn’t know what I was going to do when the best thing happened. I became a full time care giver for a toddler. Since then 2 more children have been added to the family and I couldn’t be happier. Surviving and thriving such a great feeling.
He was a working man who loved his family and suffered tragedy. When Carol, his daughter, my dad’s half sister was 13 she died fron a brain aneurysm. Then when I was about 13, Daryl his son and my dad’s half brother died. He was around 30. Daryl died in a parachuting accident. For a long time his bedroom was kept as a shrine.
Even with all this heartache he loved his grandchildren and all the future great and great, great grandkids. My favorite memory of Grandpa is that he had the best carnival barker routine. He always made it so funny but saying pea corn, pop nuts, chewy water and soda gum. There was more to but I laughed every time.
You accomplished a lot in your long life but most importantly you loved well and were loved by many. Rest in Peace
When was the first time you really felt like a grown up (if ever)?
I’ve actually pondered this many times. Busy being a wife and mom, watching my friends doing the same, I marveled at how adult they seemed. There were a couple of women that stood out. S was always an adult. She lived her life by a well thought out logic. I remember she told me as a university student she loved a man but knew he would be an illogical choice for a husband. Instead she married the stable man who has lived his life with a logical mindset.
I had another friend D, who was old the first time I met her. Not old by age, but old by mindset. I am five years younger and she would always tell me, “just wait until you’re 40 then 50 then 60 etc” and then list a whole host of ailments, assuring me I too would suffer. Not a single one came true except for the food getting stuck in my teeth more frequently! 🤣🤣🤣
Recently I saw a children’s movie which emphasized the importance of never forgetting to play. Fortunately for me I am a care provider for 10 and 8 year old boys and a 4 year old girl. They remind me each day with their enthusiasm and laughter to remember to play. We’ve played pirates, had mountain climbing contests, pretending to dine at a restaurant, and even being moms and dads caring for babies. I am also reminded when tears come, it’s time to be the grownup. During disagreements, back talk, sibling arguments I can’t scream or yell. When I broke my ankle, I couldn’t panic. Remaining calm kept the kids from falling apart. Calling 911, their parents, even being treated by the EMTs, I couldn’t lose control.
So while I may not feel grownup, somewhere along the way, I did grow up.
The only possessions I’d be sad losing would be the photos and videos of my children growing up. Beyond that everything is replaceable. I think I’d actually feel free.
Why free? Since my divorce it’s been difficult to get rid of things. I’ve kept things, clothes, books and duplicate kitchen items, I’ll probably never use. But I’m afraid once something is gone, I’ll need it and not be able to replace it. So now my possessions are burdens. They are possessing me.
Losing all my possessions would make a fresh start simple and easy.
I am not sure how many people will recognize Mr. Bob Hope in the photo, but that is me at 17 years old. I was Miss Teenage Nevada and at the national pageant. It was a wonderful experience. The show was televised but I have never seen it. In 1976 there were no VCRs or DVRs to record a show. I’ve searched the internet for it but so far no luck.
This morning I was no longer 65. Today I am 66. It is always surreal to me when I have a birthday. Why? Because I can quite never figure out how I ended up this old or young depending on your perspective. Having no idea what 66 is supposed to look like or feel like, it will be interesting to discover the answers.
As of now, I still work full-time. Retirement is a possibility but for now I want to work. I enjoy caring for the children whose parents are doctors. I look forward to seeing them each morning. And isn’t that what life is all about, waking up in the morning and looking forward to the day? My life isn’t a whirlwind of travel or life in a second home, but I like my life. It may not be the one I thought I would have when I was 40 or 50 but it’s a good life. It is a peaceful life not just in my daily activities but inside my heart. I feel a deep peace and contentment.
Happy Birthday to Me. May my 66th year be my best yet.
In what ways does hard work make you feel fulfilled?
Hard work can be a variety of things. It doesn’t necessarily mean physical labor.
When I have a task physical or mental that must be accomplished, I write it down. Sometimes I even break it into steps so I feel I’ve accomplished something even if the task isn’t completed in one go.
Once it is done, I feel a sense of relief and pride. Relief that it is finished and pride in a job well done.
This is the third year I have participated in my library’s 50 books in 50 weeks in 50 categories challenge. The first two years it took me all 50 weeks to finish. This year I finished early. The library gives the categories and the reader is free to choose any book which fulfills the category.
I started this challenge because I had gotten in a rut and reading only a few genres. This has opened me up to so many good books I would have never considered reading. So step out of your comfort zone and pick up a new genre. If you haven’t read in a long time, don’t be overwhelmed. Find a title or cover that appeals to you and get started. You won’t regret it.
Here is the list of 50 books I read:
Stephen King: On Writing
Kent Haruf: Plainsong
Asphyxia: The Words in myHands
Maxie McCoy: You’re not Lost
Katherine Arden: The Bear and The Nightingale
Rita Mae Brown: Claws for Alarm
Amanda Gorman: Call us What They Carry
Zane Grey: Desert Gold
Erik Larson: The Devil in the White City, murder, magic and madness
Camille DiMaio: The First Emma
Marina Elena Sandovici: Storms of Malhado
Jo Walton: Farthing
James Runcie: Sidney Chambers and the Shadow of Death
Stephen Crane: The Red badge of Courage
Taylor Jenkins Reid: Atmosphere
Lucy Foley: The Guest List
David Sedaris: Me talk Pretty One day
Banu Mishtaq: Heart lamp selected stories
Axie Oh: The Girl who fell beneath the Sea
Katherine Reay: Dear Mr. Knightley
Philip Deck: The Man in the High Castle
Walter Wangerin Jr: The Book of God
Claire Keegan: Small Things Like These
Shirley Wachtel: The Baker of Lost Memories
Kristina McMorris: Sold on a Monday
Madeline Miller: The Song of Achilles
Edmond Rostand: Cyrano de Bergerac
Vyvyan Evan’s: The Babel Apocalypse
Elly Griffiths: The Last Word
Ina Caro: Paris to the Past: Traveling through History by Train
Claire Swinarski: The Funeral Ladies of Ellerie County
Claire Leslie Hall: Broken Country
Carsten Henn: The Door to door Bookstore
Shonda Rhimes: Year of Yes
Beth O’Leary: The No Show
Neil Hayward: Lost Among the Birds: Accidentally Finding Myself in one Very Big Year
Wendy Corsi Staub: The Fourth Girl
Loretta Ellsworth: Stars over Clear Lake
Rachel Joyce: The Unlikely Pilgrimage of Harold Fry
Shawntelle Madison: The Fallen Fruit
Diana Gabaldon: Go Tell the Bees that I am Gone
Jojo Moyes: We All Live Here
Kathleen Grissom: The Kitchen House
Hilary Leichter: Terrace Story
Lauren Roberts: Reckless
Julie Hatcher: Not Quite by the Book
Matthew Inman: How to tell if your cat is plotting to kill you
The trait I like best about myself is also the trait the hate most about myself. I am a talker. Moving around a lot as a kid, I learned quickly no one is looking for a new friend. Therefore I ended up talking my way to a friendship.
Now as an adult, I can speak to just about anyone and make them feel welcomed and included. I like this about myself.
I also hate that I am a talker because so many times I needed to be a listener. Many times talking is a screen for my fear of being excluded-left out.
While I’m busy making people feel included and welcomed, I’m not listening to what they say.
Interesting prompt. I can’t say I associate with any brand. I have a few favorites but I don’t necessarily buy them exclusively. I think there is too much emphasis on brands. Every Instagram account now seems to be trying to sell me something.
Women seem to think if they carry a Louis Vuitton bag people will think they have money. It’s crazy because fake bags are easy to come by and it takes more than a bag to appear monied.
I was so excited about summer. The kids and I had planned so many fun things to do. All fun was abruptly stopped when I slipped. I dislocated my ankle and broke it in three places. A 911 call, a visit to the ER trauma and surgery the next morning meant all those plans and time I expected to spend with the kids wasn’t going to happen. And to top it off two weeks prior to falling, I had adopted 2 very young kittens.
The first couple of weeks I slept a lot. It was probably my body working to heal. Following that, I had what I call the vast expanse of random thoughts. My mind wandered from plans, to worries, to memories back to plans and the cycle has continued all summer.
I feel very fortunate. I was convinced I was alone in this town but I was surprised. My California daughter came for the first week and she was a tremendous help. After she came my Pennsylvania daughter came with my grandkids. The grandkids kept 2 very energetic and playful kittens busy and my daughter helped around the house. My church help provide meals, a friend from church provided transportation and a couple of people from my book club, even pitched in. And a mother very busy with three young children, even found time to bring me dinner. I thought I was alone, but God proved me wrong. He showed me a vast community ready to support me.
I am now just one week away from being cast free. My to do lists are many and long. School begins two weeks after I return to work. I’ve promised myself and the kids and I will do as much as possible to make those last two weeks fun.
This forced stop has reminded me it’s important to embrace each day and make as many memories as possible, even when the days are simply being together because we never know when our life will take a detour.
This is the third year I have participated in my library’s 50 books in 50 weeks in 50 categories book club. I like going to the monthly meetings but it’s not necessary. You can still participate without attending.
The challenge initially seemed overwhelming. I decided to try it because I had been limiting myself to only a couple of genres. It was time to branch out and explore. Fortunately the library supplies the categories and if you need help they can even provide you a list of books.
I just finished The Song of Achilles. I think everyone must remember reading The Iliad and The Odyssey in high school. They were long epic tales of Greek heroes and myths. This is a modern retelling of part of The Iliad.
Written in a contemporary voice it is a moving tale of love, friendship, power, arrogance, and sacrifice.
Without the library challenge I doubt I would have read many of the books, I’ve read over the past 2+ years. And some of them have become favorites. So do not limit yourself to one genre whether it’s in books, movies, music and even people. Branch out and explore.
I ordered something from a department store. This is the state of the package upon arrival. It clearly has been torn open and hastily taped back together.
When I opened the package the handbag chain was broken. 3/4 of it was gone. The gold medallion on the bag had been torn off and placed back on.
Needless to say I wasn’t happy. I paid $10.95 for shipping. (An outrageous amount in my opinion). I drove 45 minutes to the store to return it.
Happily there was no problem with the return and they even credited me the shipping cost towards the new bag I ordered. Then they ordered the bag with no shipping cost added.
FedEx was the company which shipped the item. Belk was the department store. (A southern staple).
My question is why did FedEx continue to send a package clearly damaged during shipping. Why didn’t they return it to the store. It’s not like it was possible to miss the damage. I get many packages delivered mostly from USPS and UPS. It is a rare occasion if something arrives damaged. To be honest I don’t even remember receiving a damaged package from either of them.
Again I’m astounded at the utter lack of care by FedEx.
I always wanted more children. I have two daughters but God knew what was in my future.
When I became a nanny in the autumn of 2016 there was one boy, A, and he was 16 months old. It was love at first site. I knew God had brought me to this town to love and care for this child. The following autumn another boy, O joined the family in September. And in January 2021, a beautiful daughter came along.
I knew time raising my daughters had gone quickly, but for some unknown reason I had the idea time would move more slowly now. I was in for a rude awakening. Time had sped up, not slowed down.
My bonus grandchildren are now almost 10, 7.5 and 4. I swear they were just babies. I had several years before I was to be 65, lots of time ahead of me. Time does not cooperate and slow down during the good times or speed up in the bad times.
So here I am with no more babies, bonus grandchildren and grandchildren growing so quickly right before my eyes.
It’s a joy to watch them grow and learn, but it leaves a yearning in my heart for times that have past.