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Speaking without knowing


I just received a tongue lashing from someone who knows nothing about me or what I’ve been through. It’s so easy to judge someone’s life or decisions when you judge from comfort. How can anyone know what someone else has experienced without asking?

How can someone speak of believing in marriage and not divorce when she doesn’t  know the choices you had or the situation you were in? How can someone minimize your struggles or heartache when she knows nothing of your life?

Divorce is not something I wanted. I spent 30 years forgiving and trying to make it work. It  takes two people to make a marriage work. And for anyone who believes mental and emotional abuse is less damaging than physical abuse has never experienced it. 

So before you give someone a tongue lashing stop. Keep your mouth shut and thank the Lord above you are not in that person’s situation. 

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One thought on “Speaking without knowing

  1. Oh, I’m so sorry some ignorant, arrogant fool made you feel bad about your divorce. Yes, a marriage that lasts a lifetime is the ideal, and some happily achieve it. But many are in the situation you were in, where your spouse is not the man (or woman) you believed you married — of course to an extent that’s always true, but in your case, it was untenable. The beauty of going through painful, difficult situations is you will be less likely to judge others.

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