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Desperately Seeking

Posted on by Dede

I know for anyone who reads my blog this is a redundant post. However as the days go by I am left with fewer and fewer choices. Supposedly we live in a society that values contribution unless it is that of a mother and wife. After over 25 years of running a household, volunteering in my community and helping my friends and neighbors, I am turned away time and time again for employment.

Every day I receive another rejection in my inbox. Never do they state why I am being passed over. Is there no one willing to take a chance on me? My ex-husband has left me without the financial means to care for myself without a job. I had enough for these three years. I never anticipated being unable to find a job. I don’t need to make a lot of money. My ex-husband makes $300,000 a year now. In the past three years his income has almost doubled. Funny how that happened post divorce. I only need to make $40,000 a year. That is just 6 weeks equivalent to my ex-husband’s income.

I have given up any feeling that I am not having the life I deserve or the life I earned and worked for. I should be traveling, anticipating grand-kids, volunteering in my community and pursuing my interests after all those years of caring for Doug and our daughters, but that is not my life. My life is now one of loneliness, struggle and fear. My prayers have gone unanswered. God isn’t giving me any guidance of what my next step should be. I keep listening but I hear nothing, not even the slightest hint.

I am at a complete loss as what I should do. It is a sad statement on our society that women like me are so easily discarded.

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9 thoughts on “Desperately Seeking”

  1. Have you considered something at home? Like Avon or Scentzi? They may not pay much but might keep you on your feet.

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  2. Have you tried working with a temp agency? You won’t start out making as much money, but you’ll get work, and it’s easier to get a job when you have a job. I don’t know what job skills you have but they’ll often help you develop marketable skills as well. Some companies are looking for women with “maturity,” so hang in there. I can see by your picture you’re attractive and you clearly are intelligent, so the trick is getting yourself physically in front of people. Job hunting sucks. Divorce sucks. Keep a good attitude. You’re better than your situation.

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    1. I have and was told when they have something that fits my qualifications they will contact me. No one is looking for mature women. I think I’m caught between no recent experience and too qualified. Plus they don’t have to give a reason they rejected you and with graduation dates required on online applications it’s simple to tell how old I am. I may very well be living in my car this summer stopping at friends for a few months.

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      1. They require graduation dates on online applications???? That should be illegal. But I do know when I was looking for work a few years ago I got two jobs through a temp agency specifically because I was over 40 — they never said it, but the companies I worked for did. I don’t know how old you are, but there are some places that help people over a certain age find work. I will keep you in my prayers. I have been there and I know how hard and discouraging it is. (Okay, not the divorced part, but the job hunting part.)

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  4. Dude, can’t you get alimony from him? With what he makes you should get it. If you can’t find a job, take him to court and sue for alimony. Then make him pay for you least g all fees. That is a disgrace for men ough to walk out on a woman who took care of him for thirty years. He should be responsible for your dilemma, after all, he put you there. I sure would.

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