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Living Life as just One

 

Living Life as 1

Yesterday I received a survey from Austin Trail of Lights asking me about my experience. There was one question asking who I came with and how many people there were. They had one HUGE error. There was no selection for anyone who might have gone alone. It was assumed that to go you wouldn’t go alone.

I find this mentality is pervasive in our society. Even when you go online to book a room at a hotel, it is automatically set to 2 people. Restaurant hosts look at you odd when you say just 1. The movie ticket booth isn’t any different. I’ve taken to buying my tickets online to avoid the odd stare.

There is a difference between being alone and lonely. I was lonely when I was married. Even though someone shared my bed, my home, my life it was hollow and empty. I wasn’t alone but I was desperately lonely. I don’t mind going places alone. I have traveled alone because I didn’t want to wait to see places and experience new things. That being said, I do get lonely. It’s not easy making friends especially at this age. I have no home which means no neighbors. I have no children in school so no classmate parents. I don’t have a spouse’s co-workers or a job of my own with co-workers. Churches aren’t generally friendly places. I know they like to think differently but typically there is nothing more than a nod or a quick handshake. Very few are willing to go the extra mile and reach out.

I pray I don’t spend the rest of my life alone but I can guarantee you either way I won’t be lonely.

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I am always learning something new about life. My life is made richer by friends, family, travel, experiences and books.

4 thoughts on “Living Life as just One

  1. The truth of what you said makes me feel so sad. There’s nothing worse than being lonely in a marriage. It can make you crazy. I hope you can find some passion to fill up your time, Dede. Are you still job hunting?

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  2. I believe that there is a value in being able to enjoy activities on your own. I think a lot of people are afraid to be alone with their own thoughts. I traveled extensively by myself when I was younger and I still like to go to movies by myself when I can (because then I can just go to what I want and not worry if anyone else is enjoying it). I agree that “alone” does not mean “lonely”.

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